“Unconditional Love, is That Possible?”

The Lunch

The day turned out to be sunny, bright, breezy and more beautiful than I remember. I tried my best to let go of the anxiety and anticipation of a lunch date with a total stranger.

I'd asked myself a million and one more questions. The memory of the spiritual phenomena experience was still fresh in my mind, in my heart and soul. I had to know what was it all about. Something like this would usually happen when completely alone. A stranger? . . . On an elevator? . . . Why me? Why him? . . . Why now? . . .

My attachment to the many questions became never-ending. I’m somewhat of an analytical personality, so, for me, I must know. “Analytical Thinkers are reserved, quiet persons. They like to get to the bottom of things - curiosity is one of their strongest motives . . .” (https://www.ipersonic.com/type/AT.html)

And, although there were very strong feelings of “Love” very present, resonating through me, as if the phenomena never left my side since the incident, I still collected composure, and continued with studies and work. The more emotions came to surface, the more I’d breathe my way through. There was no other way . . . through all those feelings.

In Slow Motion

Somehow, the Heavens provided me with the confidence needed to survive through, because, by

the time the lunch date came around, I felt stronger, more confident, and quite a bit more at ease than foreseen. In retrospect, I’d imagine us running toward one another in slow motion . . .

I see him. I sort of had a little craving for the old ways, to make judgements about the situation . . . I insecurely wanted to poke some fun, if even just to ease my ego, and say to myself, “Hey. It was all in my imagination, a fluke, or I was simply day dreaming, sleep walking, or something.” I, in good conscience, craved to say, “come on Donna, he’s not even all that!”

Passing, or making any judgement(s), about any of the experience were completely absent. The only result was to stay here, now, in this moment . . . feeling my way through . . . trusting all is well . . . all is good. No matter what I experienced, whether believable or incredible, it was the most fantastic thing that could’ve ever happened to me, and I was ready to ride the wave.

The energy of “Love” was definitely in the air that day, and it turned out to be the most romantic thing. What I mean by “romantic” in this case, is that our exchanges were smooth and calm, admiration, wonder and warmth seemed to be easily shared between us both. Incredible feelings of “Love” were ever present, as if the heavens were our chaperones.

The reason for the romantics, I believe the stranger may perhaps have been a “Twin Flame”, or “our perfect mirror” according to Brianna Wiest where “Your connection is too intense for you to have just been strangers – there is a deep feeling of familiarity when you’re with them.” (https://thoughtcatalog.com/brianna-wiest/2016/09/18-signs-youre-experiencing-whats-known-as-a-twin-flame-relationship/).

The Intense Feelings of LOVE

Because “Love” was resonating through me like air

through a screen, I assumed, per my conviction that it was something more. I couldn’t help it! I had a belief in my mind, and I absolutely, one hundred percent knew that if I felt this way, then something more was up with that! Why else would I experience such a tremendous love like this?

According to Deborah Anapol, Phd Love is bigger than you are. You can invite love, but you cannot dictate how, when, and where love expresses itself. You can choose to surrender to love or not, but in the end, love strikes like lightning: unpredictable and irrefutable. You can even find yourself loving people you don't like at all. Love does not come with conditions, stipulations, addenda, or codes. Like the sun, love radiates independently of our fears and desires. (https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/love-without-limits/201111/what-is-love-and-what-isnt)

The Mirror, The Reflection

Then . . . I knew. Not soon after I asked myself that question, I knew that the only thing I was experiencing was . . . ALL ME. I knew that this person was a mirror (metaphorically), although the outward appearance was different, he was me living in a different world. For example, it was a bit odd how we shared a lot of similarities, such as having some of the same likes, dislikes, quirks here and there, etc., etc.

Therefore, any judgement I may have had surface within me, almost as if in judging him, was like banging my head against a reflection of myself (figuratively speaking, of course).

When I realized that he was me (symbolically), I quickly wanted to test the theory with others. If he is me, then what about other people, are they ‘me’ too? I said “Okay” to myself. So how should I test this theory? Perhaps, choose someone that I may have judgements about. In due course, I chose to place myself in a position to be around a person who would generally, quickly and easily get on my nerves, or I was impatient with, or simply believed this person could not be ‘me’ in a million years. You know, there may be one, or two folks who, every time they walk into a room a feeling comes to surface . . . “run” . . . “far away”!

Could every person I meet . . . be me? Each feeling experience I felt with the stranger, I decided to employ the intense nature of feelings, and practice honing in on them in other areas or people in my life. It took some practice, but I did it.

Uncomfortable on Purpose

I placed myself in a position to be uncomfortable on purpose. While sitting with the person who perhaps may be the most bothersome for me personally, I would observe just about every bad feeling that came up within me. At first, I couldn’t take but a couple seconds the agony of the matter. When I was ready, I'd nevertheless said for example “hi Nini (fictitious name we’ll use) how are you today?” Needless to say, Nini comes up with the same ole conversation that may cause defensive, or some other hazardous feeling within myself.

I would normally cut the conversation short (running away), by saying things like “it was nice talking with you Nini. I really have something to do right now, later perhaps?”

Instead, patiently I listened to what Nini had to say (in depth) this time while remaining silent, focused on the moment with the person, and simply becoming aware of the many irritations that came up within me (as unattached observer). As I listened . . . I heard more . . . eventually, I began to see more of what this person is really about, like I’ve never seen before . . . eventually I began to understand her . . . and then . . . There it was! In a little whisper, I saw it! In a fraction of a second, I saw ME! . . . right there . . . in her! Wow!

From then on, that person is someone I learned to love deeply and unconditionally.

Being still and listening while observing the now took some practice, but when I could finally see ‘me’ in her . . . I realized then . . . I have found . . . unconditional love.

Coming Soon EBook “Stranger on an Elevator” A Story of Twin Flames Spiritual Phenomenon, Non-Fiction, written by Donna L. Holloman

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Until next time,

Namaste

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Donna shares her experiences of a spiritual awakening, and how she “works it out, through the heart”. Hence the name, The Spiritual Archer, where she offers techniques used to ride the waves of the spiritual awakening process. For example, she provides techniques “to successfully quit smoking”, to “help live in the moment”, “how to ride high, with love and forgiveness of self” while undergoing the many vast feelings associated with the spiritual awakening experience, and so much more!

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Donna L. Holloman: The Spiritual Archer, see FEATURE BLOG POST: To recap, five (5) years ago, in 2012, Angels, Heaven, or something like it, had a strong desire to assist Donna through a short, but profound spiritual awakening phenomena. The heavens opened up! The thing about this story. . . she wasn’t alone . . . this is all happening while completely sober (no drugs of any kind and/or alcohol). At this time in her life, she was on the last leg of finishing a second Master's Degree, and of course, working full time in an office environment . . . Not familiar with the story of Donna’s spiritual awakening experience? Get acquainted and check out her first Blog to learn more at Donna L. Holloman: The Spiritual Archer, http://thespiritualarcher.com/ press the “Learn More” button.